Your Inner Critic’s Personality Is
The People Pleaser
You value GIVING over receiving, and because of that, people are always attracted to you. But, you might feel selfish at times when you want to put yourself first.
Watch this quick video from MaryAnn to learn more about how “The People Pleaser” holds you back.
Because of this, it can be HARD to set boundaries—mainly because you genuinely want people to like you.
The problem that comes with wholeheartedly caring for others without setting proper boundaries?
You forget yourself in the process.
You might not realize it, but true people-pleasing tends to be rooted in fear of rejection and abandonment.
I get it—it feels good to help others and be liked. But when you’re constantly putting everyone’s needs before your own, you can lose your sense of self.
Three other reasons why you may feel the desire to please others:
1. Fear of rejection (or the desire to fit in)
2. Feel guilty about saying “No”
3. Hate to be criticized
When you’re someone who wants to please others all the time, you can deny your feelings of self-love and self-worth (without even realizing it!).
But ultimately, a truly healthy, compassionate person not only naturally wants to help others—but also considers themselves.
This is why learning how to set better boundaries can be POWERFUL.
Setting boundaries allows for space in your life and the opportunity to say “Yes!” to the things that will make you truly happy. (Getting on the “NO train” has never felt SO good.)
Remember this:
The outer conditions of a person’s life always reflect their inner beliefs, and you’re worthy of a beautiful life.
Your sheer existence makes you:
✓ Worthy
✓ Deserving
✓ Unique
It’s time to stop pleasing others and start living out the fearless and unapologetic life you’re destined for!
Ok, now that you’re ready to embrace a more purposeful life fully, you must acknowledge the first step to getting there—and it might surprise you.
It’s how you think! (some may call this mindset, but I think it goes a step deeper)
Before you fulfill your destiny, you have to uncover the negative stories your subconscious (aka inner critic ) tells you to keep you safe.
Stories like, you…
Are not "smart enough," "confident enough," or "qualified enough" to put yourself out there.
Don’t have the ability to make the “right” decisions.
Have failed in the past—and don’t want to feel that pain again—so instead you play it safe. (Did you know the pain of losing something is psychologically TWICE as powerful as the pleasure of gaining? Explains a lot, right?!)
Feel as though you're not capable of being anything "MORE" in this life because of past mistakes and disappointments (we’ve all been there!).
Don’t know HOW to listen to your intuition—and even if you did—you'd question if it was leading you on the right path.
Your inner critic will keep trying to convince you that it's just protecting you (but that's a lie). Your inner critic is NOT your friend.
It’ll tell you it’s there to keep danger out, but what it really does is stop progress and abundance from coming in.
Your purpose in life is much BIGGER than what your inner critic is telling you.
It's time to calm your inner critic, lean into your authentic self, define what personal success looks like for you, and start impacting MORE lives than you could imagine.
Ready?
Keep reading: I'll help you breathe a sigh of RELIEF because you’ll be able to make decisions quickly that feel good—and are aligned with helping you become the person you are meant to be.
Imagine what it would be like if you…
<<< Could say “NO” to the things that don’t make you feel good. (And allow yourself space to say “YES” to what you want.)
<<< Felt peace and contentment after making life-changing decisions knowing that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
<<< Never had to ask yourself, “Why did I do this?” because you knew in your heart the decision you made was the right one at the time—no matter the outcome.
<<< Realized you didn’t have to question yourself, again and again—but instead, you were able to move forward with EASE.
<<< Told your inner critic to “STOP” because it’s trying to keep you small. In your gut, you’re ready to start living outside your comfort zone (and have the unshakeable confidence to do it).
This can be a reality—keep scrolling, and I’ll tell you how...
“What you desire is deliberately placed out of reach so that you can become the person it takes to obtain it.”
-Mastin Kipp
EVERYTHING
starts to shift when you double down on your strengths, quiet the negative voices and embrace your intuition (← it’ll never steer you wrong).
Get excited—you're about to learn how to identify your best self—and the steps to live in your genuine identity (and propel yourself into purpose and success.)
NAME IT
Identify your strengths. Those natural talents and abilities define not IF you can succeed in life—but HOW you’ll succeed.
CLAIM IT
Own your strengths. Then, invest in understanding how you can use them to your advantage for setting and achieving goals (the ones your inner critic is whispering are impossible).
AIM IT
Intentionally use your strengths to move you towards fulfilling your purpose. When you purposefully lean into your strengths, you tame your inner critic.
When you control the beast, suddenly you can begin to live in the highest vibration of your authentic voice—and soaring higher in your life than you've ever imagined possible.
In other words, when you take this approach, you'll go from “Ugh, it’s always going to be like this” to feeling aligned and confident with your choices.
And when you feel alignment and confidence—you’re no longer held hostage by your inner critic.
This is where you breakthrough to the other side to meet the best version of yourself—and accomplish your audacious dreams and goals.
Click below to download your Name It, Aim It, Claim It resource!
Ready to claim your confident, authentic self? I can help!
Hi, I’m MaryAnn!
I'm a theatre actress, lover of fast cars, but most importantly, I’m a Advanced Certified Gallup® Strengths coach who's on a MISSION to help you calm your inner critic and define your path to success.
I help you feel aligned with the work you do by leaning into your strengths, knowing your worth, and leading a more purposeful life.
Although, my inner critic hasn’t always been calm. For years it ran my life—and I underestimated the power of my intuition and authenticity.
I ignored the whisper of my authentic voice until that whisper became a painful shriek after a traumatic event involving my daughter broke everything loose. I finally faced my inner critic head-on, and it changed my life.
I began noticing that other capable people like me often questioned their talent, strengths, and purpose. I realized that the inability to control their inner critic left them underestimating the power of their authentic voice—and their life reflected it.
So, I’ve dedicated my business—and life—to help people discover their genuine strengths, uncover their blind spots, and show them the steps to live a courageous, more meaningful life by trusting the reliability of their intuition.
Because once you calm your inner critic, embrace your strengths, and hear what your authentic, genuine voice is saying—you’re truly unstoppable.
What’s Next?
Over the next several days I’ll be sharing tips and strategies via email to help you begin to calm your own inner critic and take back control of your life. Keep an eye on your inbox, and let’s do this together!